as for the stuff that i said about being a confidate/confidantee, i think trust is the issue here. no offense, but love isnt the answer for everything.
its about trust really. and the principle here is all-or-nothing. like you've either got to trust that someone so much you can tell them anything, or you can just tell someone you dont even know (like a psychiatrist XD) about your problems. you dont trust them, but heck, you know they wont spill the beans to the others and they cant do any damage to your life.
the thing about trust, it takes a long time to build and quite a lot of effort for me. i dont trust people that easily. it depends though, like i'd spill my secrets to people who are close to me, or maybe i'd tell someone i dont really know about my secrets because i know they cant affect me. though, having someone you trust to talk with about your problems and secret is one of the most efficient way to relieve stress. i have had some friends that i trusted so much. i practically told them everything, i was totally open to them and all. also, i was so dependant on them. but changes happened. in such a short time, the tie that we made for a long time was suddenly chopped off. all the time and efforts i made to trust those people, all went down the drain. i was left behind, and since it takes me a long time to build another trust, its quite tough for me. i know changes happened, people grow up and all. but for them to completely leave me just like that, its just unforgivable! i think at some extent, its quite meaningless, useless to trust someone too much. and i hate being dependant to others.
okay, im not depressed XD. i just need to sort out my thinking and blow off some steam. yup, im quite sorted out now ^^. now i need to do some planning for the weekened~
2 comments:
True, love can't solve everything.
Buuut... would you trust someone you hated? Or would you trust someone you loved? (Of course, you won't automatically trust someone if you love them though ^.~)
Love itself doesn't solve everything, but it definitely unlocks the door to fixings. Y'know, like the lid on salad dressing.
Yeah, trust takes lots of time to build. It also takes nothing but suspicion to start to break it, too. Trust is... very delicate in some ways.
It's also pretty strong in other ways, and it's possible that you might trust someone, and never stop trusting him or her. Problem is... that's incredibly rare, and trust tends to break easily.
What I'd like to know... is why it's so hard for you, personally, to develop trust. :)
hum...why, indeed? no comment. im not an easy nut you know :P
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